Hello guys
One of the writer who is also a relationship expect came up with a percentage that affects most married couples. He said 69 % most marriages face are perpetual. He gave an idea of those perpetual tings..."the other partner wanting a baby but the other does not want, House chores, the other partner wanting sex more while the other does not want,which church a child should go to if people have different religions.  I know with my friends and family when we talk about our marriages, we complain about the same things that is why I think the percentage number is accurate. I remember chatting to a friend about the challenge I had with house chores and all that. She asked me about the background of my partner. After telling her, she said she also struggles with getting her partner to help her. The excuse of our partners are the same, they grew up in families where woman only did house chores. What helped me in that situation was letting my partner know that, things have changed as the gospel teaches us of being equal in helping one another,
I remember the first time I visited the church; my father hated it because it had white people. His defense is because of what happened during the apartheid era, the struggles blacks went through. On the other hand, my mother had no problem as she saw how the church teaches correct principles and taught young people about moral values and so forth. During that time, my parents fought and things escalated into separation. I decided not to investigate the church anymore but my mom refused. My mother assured me that the angry my father had was not about me but rather with the fact that they have been experiencing marital problems. I remember fasting and praying that they fix things and come to terms that I was being baptized. The Lord did answer my problems as they fixed their issues and both signed consent forms for me to be baptized. Their marriage improved for the better.
Forgiveness is important just in general and is even more important in marriages. I do not think I would have still been married if our marriage were not based on forgiveness. Imagine two different people staying together, obviously conflicts will arise and sometimes the best answer is forgiveness. I know I am not perfect neither is my partner, that is why we need forgives from time to time. I would love to hear your thoughts on this matter.