A quote that was made by President Hinckley hit my heart so hard when he said, “if only we could see our partners as resurrected beings, being perfect and from all that we used to despise, we would kneel down and worship them. As often, we turn to focus more on the wrongs and how we could change them in our partners. Yes, sometimes we will fall out of love for a second because of what our partners did or did not do. That should not mean the marriage has to end but rather praying for them. When I got married I focused so much on negativity other than allowing my love for my husband help me overlook some of those negative things. What frustrated me even the most was wanting him to change, and I felt like the Lord was too slow for His intervention. I would pray day and night for him to change. When I saw what I was praying for did not seem to happen, I paused and used my powerful mind on how to pray best instead of being frustrated. A prompt came to my mind that I should pray for my inner peace simple by asking the Lord to help me be a good example to my partner and not focus on what he needed to do. From that day, forth the Lord helped me to have inner peace in being patient with his imperfections. Just like when we are facing challenges, we should pray for peace instead of wanting the Lord to take them away.
I love what President Hunter shared, “whatever Jesus lays His hand upon it lives. When He lays his hand upon our marriages, it lives as well. “These words are so profound and I believe if we would all take them into our daily living we would live too. I often hear people say, marriage is a suffocation and I feel like the reason why they feel that way is because they do not allow and invite the Lord into it. There is no way one could live with a different gender, with different background without making the Lord as their center. Marriage itself is not ease even when Jesus Christ reside in it, how much more when He is not part of it. When I got married, my relationship with the Lord became even more firm because he knows me and knows my husband that makes Him the right person to turn to.
Thank you for sharing that with us .I don't have a partner yet but one thing I've learned in my missionary experience is the importance of looking for good in your companion. We all have weaknesses and that is true some we can help them overcome but others it's really hard to do that, but there is is more good than bad in bad in each person . I like what you shared also and I'm sure if we would look at them that way then will be able so see all the positive things in them. All that the devil is trying to instill in our minds to destroy marriages and families will not have a place. We will have happy and successful marraiges.
ReplyDeleteI love reading your experiences they help me better prepare myself for marriage. I know marriage requires much work for it to be successful but as you mentioned there that it's importance to make the Lord a center of our homes and marriages. Thank you☺
Thank you for your comment and I know that the Lord will bless you the person He knows is best for you as long as you continue in righteousness.
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