Hello everyone
I truly enjoyed this week reading and it made me to evaluate my own way of doing things. I loved the part of happy marriages are built on good friendships. A question was asked to think of a best friend and my mind went straight to a very good friend of mine who is not my husband. Then later I learnt the importance of making our partners to be our best friends and I felt so embarrassed and it did hit me that it is crucial for our partners to e our best friends as well. In my mind I never thought our relationship should go that beyond, I do not know maybe it is a cultural thing, be that it may it is not too late to change it.
I was chatting with a friend of mine who got divorced; she said something about the temple marriage did not do any good for her. She said she was miserable and neither did the gospel helped her in her problems. This week I read a book about “drawing marriage in our marriages.” on my side I truly believe as we live the gospel more fully our marriages could be saved and escaped the adversary. I know from experience if I do not read the scriptures and pray I become distant in my marriage and by doing these things with my husband helps us to have the spirit of the Lord. That spirit helps us to be kind and more loving to one another. There was a time when we were in a dark space because we had a miscarriage. We were angry with God on how it happened. I almost died and asked God why would I lose my baby and still almost lose my life. I stopped praying, reading scriptures and paused any contact with the Lord. That time Satan was telling me all sorts of negativity, which drove me into depression. I had to go for counselling, but never did help. A prompt came to my mind to pray and read about the atonement of Jesus Christ. As I did that, that dark cloud hanging over that and me slowly diminished made me to realize that the gospel is all that we need to survive in anything.
Hi friend, I will agree with you, in terms of culture it's true what you said; we tend not to be best friends with our spouses, but that can and must be changed.
ReplyDeleteOn that divorced friend, bless her heart. I would like to say this, respecting her remarks; I vehemently disagree with her, temple marriages do work, but both partners must come to the party, it doesn't work without our efforts, like anything worthwhile.
It's hard when trials come, and sometimes it can truly be overwhelming even with the knowledge of the gospel. But as we try however meagerly, the Saviour will reach out and help us.
Great post AND very thought-provoking.
Thanks a lot.
You are 100% correct,firstly we can only build upon the rock which is Jesus Christ, our marriages, without building on Him, we cannot be sustained, as marriage is God Ordained, it needs us to seek the face of God everyday so we can be transformed everyday to His likeness. We can never do marriage with Christ being at the center, I have to come to know even to love someone unconditionally, it is not something we can do with our own power, we need the help of God, forgiveness that also needs Gods help,basically we cant do it without the help of God, it needs us to fully devote our selves in Him everyday so He can help us in those we lack in and increase were we are trying
ReplyDeleteThank you guys for your support and comments. Indeed our marriage should have a firm foundation and that only foundation is Christ. I wonder what would have happened if Christ was not the center of my own marriage, because whenever the trial of adversary come I go to Him for better wisdom in tackling my problems. The scripture says, " He knows the way because He is the way." We are all invited to come unto Him. In Him there is tranquility and joy.
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